I would do anything for her and she would not do the same for me. She has even stated she will probably never love me as much as I love her — something that resonates within me and is slowly killing me every day. She says we will eventually be “normal” and sleep together because the longer we’re together, it’s “expected.” Seriously? I wake up every day hoping this is the day she treats me like a boyfriend and not a roommate. I try not to pressure her or complain all the time because of the whole push pull dynamic, but every day is the same and I just feel empty, rejected and used.

The only affection I get each day is at the end of the night before she goes to her own room, which is a hug, with an occasional kiss, or she “lets me” rub her feet or give her a massage. Just writing this out makes me feel like a fool for putting up with it for so long. The signs are there and there are red flags beating me in the face. anon3274

Contrary to your stupid stereotype, I think feminists are the best lovers because they are smart and have courage

A feminist would be thrilled with such a man? What? Where do you get this warped definition of a feminist. I am super passionate and affectionate. Feminism does not equal lesbianism and lesbianism doesn’t equal hating men. How stupid. anon3206

I have always had trouble with showing affection. I’m more a “show” you I care by doing things for them rather than kissing and cuddling. (I’m 31) But it’s pretty much ruined all my relationships Colorado Springs sugar daddy with girls and it looks like I’m about to lose another one. I’ve tried doing it, but I think I have a fear of rejection. VikH

I am currently on the verge of ending it with my partner and am sat open mouthed reading some of these threads, as some are similar to my experience.

When my partner and I started dating, it took a while for him to show affection, which I thought was endearing, because it was nice to know he wasn’t just someone who wanted me for sex. Now, he doesn’t seem to want sex.

He seems to be stuck in a vicious cycle. He has money troubles so is depressed. His depression is having an impact on his physical health (e.g., he is having back and leg pains for which he is now having physio).

I am finding it incredibly difficult to talk to him about it all as he becomes so low, and in the end I blurt a load of stuff out, during which I end up blaming him.

I feel completely rejected, and he doesn’t understand why I feel like that. I don’t think his childhood was particularly intimate, and recently I asked if his ability to feel emotion had changed since the death of his grandparents, which he confirmed it had.

While I don’t want to give up on him, I am anxious that he is not bothered by the situation, and is therefore unlikely to become able to show more emotion and affection towards me. AthenaP

Due to this he is constantly tired and so he never initiates sex

I don’t show it in the traditional way because I had a really rough childhood, and I was never nurtured as a child. I was shown ‘tough love’ my whole life. I’m 23, by the way. I don’t have a problem with it, though. I’m not ‘touchy-feely’ and don’t need to touch to show affection. I show it by making people gifts for Christmas or their birthday. That’s an acceptable way to show you care, in my eyes.